Super-Girls - Everyone needs a BFF to stay sane
This is a THANK YOU and LOVE YOU to all these super-girls in my life. Its always fun to be with the drama queens. In the chaos of grown-up life, sometimes all we need is a cup of coffee, or a whatsapp or SKYPE conversation with one of our girls and life seems to be getting back in order again.
There are days when we look back on life gone by and think how we reached where we are today. And one thing that alway pops up in our mind is the people who have been with us through out, some for a long time and some for a short while, always giving us something to remember them for, some memory, some punch-line or some joke.
One thing that strikes me often is the girls who taught me, who supported me and told me why life is beautiful and unfair at the same time and why it is OK. Its not feminism or anything, its just an expression of GRATITUDE towards the friends, philosophers and guides - a friend at every turn of this MAZE called life.
I rememeber, starting form school, I would made friends with someone and they would change school or I did. It was a very different experience from some of you who would have bum-chums starting from early school days. For me it was a changing environment, changing friendships. I had so many good friendship, but never really lasted more than few years or few months in some cases.
I grew up with a bunch of guys playing video games and cricket mostly and a few cousins whom I met once a year. Then in early-teens, I had my first Girl Gang, we called it D2C, Dare to Challenge - some of you reading this will remember. My first lesson of life -101. We gossiped, went to our first Friendhip Day party, had our first self choreographed group dance, Farewell, Freshers, and what not.
After the college started, like any confused teenager I was trying to find where I fit in the whole scheme of this world. And then I made a friend who was waiting for me in the college canteen, for my lecture to be over so we could go for lunch. And at that time, this supergirl - who seemed pretty sorted in life told me - this is how friendships are forged, unplanned and unaware. Its been 12 years now and I'm still in LOVE with her 😗 . During this decade+ of friendship, I went through a huge sinosuidal wave with her and with other girls in the college group, one of them is obliterated from my life for good. But there is so much I learnt from everyone of you. So much, I can't put it into words. Gerhi route, watching cricket while bunking exams, going through the heart-burns and heart-aches, crushes and love(s) of teen-hood. The story is never ending and same for all of us in one way or the other.
Here started the corporate life and I decided to part ways with my friends and fly on my own in a different company. As it turned out, I was still not ready for the world, leaving my hometown for the first time, learning about life as it came. Had a friendship gone bad in first 6 months and understood that not every girl-friend you would make is worth the trust and time. It was my second lesson and this time I took it in the right spirit and of-course there were other girls supporting me through this phase. Funny how you make friends with common enemies. Lovely as it was, I made some real good friends with some Delhi-Girls and they taugt me how to be street-smart. How to keep moving.
Then MBA was a similar story, with 16% girls in the batch, wondering who would be your support- system through this time and that too, your "type" is a challenge. But I made it through, with lot of drama and whole lot of love. So many things went right and so many went wrong, but who cares, LIFE WAS BEAUTIFUL. One of you supported me while I was moving back to Delhi from Chennai and I can never forget that phase of trying to come back to something, which was not the same anymore.
And then last 4+ year of this corporate life - Chennai, Noida, Melbourne - moving cities, moving homes, exploring something new everyday from intersting conversations to parties to clubbing to cooking to Sangrias. going for desserts @ 1 in the night to cycling @ 2.30 in the morning, some girls has always been the motivating factor. Celebrated my 30th birthday this year and it gave me a new perspective of how 3 decades have gone by.
If you reached till the end of this, just leave a message for your girl-friend whom you have not spoken to in ages, for some reason, but you miss them. I'm going to do the same. Expect a call anytime. 😜
There are days when we look back on life gone by and think how we reached where we are today. And one thing that alway pops up in our mind is the people who have been with us through out, some for a long time and some for a short while, always giving us something to remember them for, some memory, some punch-line or some joke.
One thing that strikes me often is the girls who taught me, who supported me and told me why life is beautiful and unfair at the same time and why it is OK. Its not feminism or anything, its just an expression of GRATITUDE towards the friends, philosophers and guides - a friend at every turn of this MAZE called life.
I rememeber, starting form school, I would made friends with someone and they would change school or I did. It was a very different experience from some of you who would have bum-chums starting from early school days. For me it was a changing environment, changing friendships. I had so many good friendship, but never really lasted more than few years or few months in some cases.
I grew up with a bunch of guys playing video games and cricket mostly and a few cousins whom I met once a year. Then in early-teens, I had my first Girl Gang, we called it D2C, Dare to Challenge - some of you reading this will remember. My first lesson of life -101. We gossiped, went to our first Friendhip Day party, had our first self choreographed group dance, Farewell, Freshers, and what not.
After the college started, like any confused teenager I was trying to find where I fit in the whole scheme of this world. And then I made a friend who was waiting for me in the college canteen, for my lecture to be over so we could go for lunch. And at that time, this supergirl - who seemed pretty sorted in life told me - this is how friendships are forged, unplanned and unaware. Its been 12 years now and I'm still in LOVE with her 😗 . During this decade+ of friendship, I went through a huge sinosuidal wave with her and with other girls in the college group, one of them is obliterated from my life for good. But there is so much I learnt from everyone of you. So much, I can't put it into words. Gerhi route, watching cricket while bunking exams, going through the heart-burns and heart-aches, crushes and love(s) of teen-hood. The story is never ending and same for all of us in one way or the other.
Here started the corporate life and I decided to part ways with my friends and fly on my own in a different company. As it turned out, I was still not ready for the world, leaving my hometown for the first time, learning about life as it came. Had a friendship gone bad in first 6 months and understood that not every girl-friend you would make is worth the trust and time. It was my second lesson and this time I took it in the right spirit and of-course there were other girls supporting me through this phase. Funny how you make friends with common enemies. Lovely as it was, I made some real good friends with some Delhi-Girls and they taugt me how to be street-smart. How to keep moving.
And then last 4+ year of this corporate life - Chennai, Noida, Melbourne - moving cities, moving homes, exploring something new everyday from intersting conversations to parties to clubbing to cooking to Sangrias. going for desserts @ 1 in the night to cycling @ 2.30 in the morning, some girls has always been the motivating factor. Celebrated my 30th birthday this year and it gave me a new perspective of how 3 decades have gone by.
If you reached till the end of this, just leave a message for your girl-friend whom you have not spoken to in ages, for some reason, but you miss them. I'm going to do the same. Expect a call anytime. 😜
Something which connected directly with the heart ❤️.
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